I believe that it is time that we take our relationship with the horse to the next level. It is time to move beyond the black and white concepts of training through punishment and reward; pressure and release. It is time that we ask permission from our horses, allow them to say no when that is in their best interest, and build empowered partnerships full of connection and joyfulness.
It is so easy to get stuck on our horses’ behavior that we forget to see through that outward expression to the essence of the being that stands before us. We forget to see the true heart and Soul of our horses. We forget that all behavior is the energetic expression of an internal feeling, sensation, or emotion.
You horse is always communicating with you. Are you listening?
Sometimes we get so hung up on what others have told us that we forget to check in with our own experience. Are you so stuck on what you have been taught about body language that you only see the prescription of movement? Or are you able to look beyond what you see to sense what your horse is really saying? Are you open to hearing the truth of your horse even if it goes against your beliefs and attitudes? While these are tough questions, this is the type of Soul-searching that will set you free.
Learn how to build a new dynamic with your horse. Find a way to set boundaries and invite your horse into your space to share a deep connection. Step into a space that frees your horse to be who he really is and to let go of the past trauma in his life. Help him to let go of the emotional baggage that is the root of behavior problems.
As you free your horse, he can become your teacher. Horses have an incredible power to help us heal, grow, and learn on a very deep level. Discover your authentic voice, divine expression, and unique brilliance. Your horse is the perfect mirror for you to see beyond the outer layers of your persona to the inner truth of who you are.
Learn a whole new set of skills
My name is Stef Durham and I have thirty years of experience working with horses. More important than my bachelor’s degree in equine management or my certifications, is the personal journey that I have taken to hear the call of the horse. The horses have helped me to find my authentic voice and truth – they are my teachers. I must give credit to them for the wisdom that I have to share. This is their story, their expression.
Whether we are working in person or by phone or Skype, the focus of this work is on you. Horses know how to show up fully in the moment. They may need some emotional healing and support, but they understand this way of being. It is us humans who need to learn how to shift our perception, beliefs, and approach.
I do not feel that I need to be physically present to train your horse or correct his behavior with fancy moves, tools, or skills. My role is supporting you to make the inner changes necessary to communicate clearly and effectively with your horse. You have the power to form a whole new relationship with your horse.
The focus of our time will be on the Soulful tools and skills that you can learn to be present with your horse in a way that will allow both you and your horse to blossom into greater emotional freedom. Emotional freedom means that you have a sense of inner peace – you are no longer burdened by stale beliefs that weigh you down.
Our time together will not be focused on a riding relationship. I believe that riding a horse without permission, invitation, and implicit trust is a violation of the spirit of horse. You must get to the point that your horse is fully empowered as an authentic being prior to requesting a relationship in which he carries you on his back. This is a very different view of the horse-human relationship. Yet, your horse is a sentient being and as you see him through new eyes you will come to understand this point of view.
Some of the tools you will learn:
- Breathing techniques
- Meditation
- Mindfulness
- Grounding exercises
- Chakra activation
- Energetics within your body
- Communication through intention and intuition
- Hands-on healing
I will help you learn the above tools (and more) in addition to teaching you how to take those skill-sets to the barn to connect with your horse. I will give you exercises and activities to explore with your equine partner as you create a new lens through which to see the horse.
In addition, I will work with you to understand your horse’s behavior in a new light. We can examine your beliefs and challenges. Perhaps seeing things in a new light will be the very thing to break through the blocks that you currently have with your equine partner.
Open your heart to horse and explore a consulting session
No matter where in the world you are, we can work together. If you are ready to get started – you can purchase a consulting session by clicking the button below. Upon receipt of payment, I will send you my schedule for you to book a convenient time to chat.
Before the call, take time to write down every question you can think of. At your scheduled consulting time, show up with your questions and a cup of coffee and we will get down to business!
Or you can schedule a farm call if you live within 40 miles of Spokane, WA. Please note, there is a $15 farm call surcharge per visit to account for the time and cost of travelling to your location. To schedule, email me at: stefdurham@soulfulyou.com
1 Hour Consulting Call – $50
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Package of 3 Consulting Calls (1 hour each) – $150
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